offense

I speak in generalities.  I often don't point out a specific incident but rather use my collective memory of multiple incidents to paint a story and get my point across.
This is rather difficult for a lot of people to deal with. 
People seem to need specific examples of things.
You can't say to someone - "I've noticed that you've seemed down lately, are you feeling okay?"  Instead it is required to state, "I first noticed last week that something might be a little off, and since then I've seen you skip lunch twice, cry in the bathroom once and get into a fight with another co-worker.  Are you feeling okay and can I help?"

If you use the former you're assaulted for assuming things or people start wanting to know specifically what you saw...  I don't know why...  so they can better control/hide their behavior? 

Anyway. 

A lot of people seem to have problems with generalized statements and require proof of fucking everything.
I don't have any proof of that.  It's a generalized statement that is based on my observations.
My observations are, obviously, colored by my perspective... but we'll get into that later.


So why is it that people require such specifics...
...yet you can not defend a group under attack by reminding the attackers that "It's not All..."

Pointing that out does not make one more upset about the inequal inclusivity than the damage caused by the asshats.  It's not the issue at all.  Hey...  here's a great example.

I do not run around saying that men are assholes and men are the problem.
Instead I say things like...  Entitled Men are assholes.  Extremely wealthy men are part of the problem. 

This is how I make sure I am not including every single male on the planet.
This is how I attempt to reduce the insult.
How I share my awareness that it is not all men. 

Because insulting people is horrible and we really need to be careful about what we say.  It's very important that we not offend people because it's rude.  People are very easily offended these days so it can be difficult but as long as your attempt is obvious you're usually okay.  So don't insult people.




Of course, it's perfectly okay to insult heterosexual, cisgendered Caucasian Men... and women.  Especially those of a certain age and/or socio/economic class. 
They suck.
Insult away.
If they get offended get offended at their offense.

If they come back and say, "Hey, that's not right and that's not fair and that's not how you make progress." 

We tell them to shut up, we attack them, we tell them they are wrong and it is okay because we are the minority, the downtrodden, the marginalized and we need to be angry and we need to scream our anger and attack The Man until we get what we deserve - our equality.   They don't know, they don't understand, they never will.  Because they lack the immediate empathy we will abuse and berate, holding our malignant experience as a trophy...  instead of teaching them and helping them to understand what we've experienced and survived...  they could never understand so don't even bother to try.

Just hold the double standard while screaming at the majority figures about how they need to stop with the double standards.

It makes perfect sense.

This entry may not.
But I got it all out of my fucking head.